the love dare: Love is NOT rude

As I opened up my book for today's love dare I read love is not rude.... I really didn't wanna read it, I have other things to do but I made myself.  After I read it, I was thankful.  It was wrote just for me.  I should have read it yesterday because last evening in my frustrations I was rude and I was convicted by today's reading...

Questions asked in today's reading..

How does your spouse feel about the way you speak and act around him?

How does your behavior affect your mate's sense of worth and self-esteem?

Would your husband or wife say you're a blessing, or that you're condescending and embarrassing?

Do you wish your spouse would quit doing the things that bother you? Then it's time to stop doing the things that bother them.

And more...

Three guiding principles for practicing etiquette in your marriage

1. Guard the Golden rule.   Luke 6:31

2. No double standards. Be as considerate to your spouse as you are to strangers and coworkers.  I think this one is convicting!!!!

3. Honor request.  Consider what your spouse already asked you to do or not do.  If in doubt, then ask.

The Challenge:  Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated by you.  No attacking.  and it's from their perspective.

The Love Dare by Stephen and Alex Kendrick

The Love Dare:Day 2-4

Day 2:  Love is Kind ~ Be Kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. - Ephesians 4:32
The Challenge: In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.

Day 3: Love is not Selfish ~  Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
The Challenge:Whatever you put your time, energy and money into will become more important to you...  Invest in your spouse.... No negative and buy your spouse something that says "I was thinking of you today".

Day 4: Love is thoughtful ~ When was the last time you spend a few minutes thinking about how you could better understand and demonstrate love to your spouse?
The Challenge: Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day.  Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.

-The Love Dare by Stephen and Alex Kendrick

the love dare...

i have no idea how much i'll post the next 40 days but i'm doing the love dare....  not much to say about it today.. i'm sure i'll go more in to detail in the upcoming days...

DAY1: Love is Patient
"See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but always seek after that which is good for one another" 1 Thessalonians 5:5

Today's Dare:  Demonstrate patience and say nothing negative to your spouse at all.

from the Love Dare by Stephen & Alex Kendrick